You will know these two people. One is a positive person and has an enthusiastic view of life, and the other is a pessimistic person and struggles to see the good in most things. There’s a big difference in how they come across, and it probably affects your relationship with them. That’s because mindset affects everything about us! It affects how productive we are, whether we self-sabotage and even our general happiness.
Having the right mindset is essential not just for recovery but for all our endeavours. It affects our behaviour and how we talk and think about ourselves. If we have a negative mindset, we’re more likely to come across to others negatively, and they may not want to be around us. It’s easy to fall into a negative mindset during challenging times, but it is possible to get back to your more positive self! In this blog, I share advice on cultivating a positive mindset so that you are all set for a fantastic recovery.
Self-awareness is a Powerful Thing
When you become more conscious about the thoughts you have, you become in control of your mind. One way to become more self-aware is through mindfulness. Take time to notice what’s going on in your head. As you get more and more aware, you can start to catch yourself in a negative mindset. You notice what goes on in your mind, catch yourself judging (yourself or others) and take action to shift your mindset.
Shift Out of a Negative Mindset
In Gabby Bernstein’s book, “Super Attractor: Methods of Manifesting A Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams”, she shares the Choose Again Method. There are three steps to shifting negative thoughts, which Gabby breaks downs in detail in her book:
- Notice the thought
- Forgive the thought
- Choose again
It’s essential to notice your negative mindset and then forgive yourself. We often judge ourselves instead, and this leads to more negativity in our minds.
Another helpful tool is the Emotional Guidance Scale by Abraham Hicks. It shows all the different emotions in order, going from most positive to most negative.
The scale illustrates what happens to us when we are at the bottom of the scale. We experience fear and grief that leads to depression, despair and powerlessness. Rather than trying to jump from one end of the scale to the other, think about the small steps you can take to move up a point or two. It takes time to move back up the emotional scale, and small actions help.
Practice Staying in a Positive Mindset
If you notice that you’re in a negative mindset, try simple breathing exercises. Take seven deep belly breaths and keep your mind focused on your breath or visualise a place that brings you joy.
Shirzad Chamine, founder and CEO of Positive Intelligence, Inc, shares this tool that you can use anytime (even if you are in a meeting where you might not be able to stop to take seven deep belly breaths!):
Press the thumb and forefinger of one hand together very gently. Keep your attention on the touch – make it so light that you can feel the ridges of your fingertips. Doing this is a great way to bring you back to the present moment.
Hear him describe the process in this video:
There are other strategies for creating and staying in a positive mindset. I have a list of about 20 things that I can do to help me get back on track. These include:
- Going for a walk
- Doing yoga
- Taking several deep breaths
- Reading a book
- Listening to my favourite music
Keep your list of things that you know can help you move up that emotion scale handy so you can turn to them anytime you feel yourself in that spiral of negativity.
Top Tips for Getting into a Recovery Mindset
1. Focusing on yourself during recovery is essential. If you’re a leadership position and trying to serve others, you cannot help others from an empty cup, so you need to fill your cup.
2. Start your gratitude journey. A positive mindset is the start of your journey to gratitude. Keep a journal and write down three things that you’re grateful for every day.
3. Practice shifting a negative mindset Use strategies like Choose Again and breathing exercises to stop and control a downward mindset spiral.
4. Set your daily intention. When you’re about to go into a meeting, take time to be in the right frame of mind for that meeting. Decide to approach it with positivity.
5. Look for the opportunity at every moment It’s unlikely that we’re ever going to go back to what things were pre-pandemic. Take opportunities that present themselves in this new world. Doing this will speed up your journey to recovery.
If you’d like to find out more about developing a positive mindset and how I work with my clients, get in touch on 07980 838945 or email me at [email protected]